Some of the questions you might benefit from answering here are:
What do I want in my family relationships?
What do I want in my social relationships?
What do I want in my work relationships?
What do I want in my intimate relationships?
How do I get what I want in my family relationships?
How do I get what I want in my social relationships?
How do I get what I want in my work relationships?
How do I get what I want in my intimate relationships?
Self-evaluation questions – Please evaluate from 1 – 10, your current situation and where you would like to be in five years from now.
How important are your family relationships?
How satisfied are you with your family relationships?
I am close to my parents and our relationships are healthy.
I am close to my children and our relationships are healthy.
The people who matter the most in my life accept me.
How important are strong social relationships for you?
How satisfied are you with your social relationships?
I have close friendships with people I can be myself around.
I have a good social network or am part of social groups.
I am generally good at connecting with new people.
I get along with my neighbours and the people in my area.
How satisfied are you with your romantic relationship/s?
How happy are you with the overall quality of your relationships?
Write a personal vision statement and goals in your relationships related to this life area that you like to make changes in:
What is your greatest life vision for this life area?
What are your main ‘life area’ goals that will lead you towards fulfilling your greatest life vision? What needs to be done and by whom? When do these goals need to be completed by?
What are your medium-term milestone goals? What needs to be done and by whom? When do these goals need to be completed by?
What are your short-term mini-goals? What activities and tasks are needed to be done, by whom and by when? (Prioritise doing important or urgent activities and tasks that leads you to achieve your greatest life vision goal and long-term main goals and eliminate those that are not important or not urgent.)
Then ask yourself, for each goal, the following questions to determine whether they are SMARTER:
Specific – Are you specific with your goals?
Measurable – How will you know when you have reached your goals? How will you know that you are making progress towards them?
Action focussed – Do you have a good idea about what’s required to achieve these goals?
Relevant – Why are these goals important to you? How do they fit in with your greatest life vision or long-term goals?
Time-specific – When do you want to have achieved these goals by?
Exciting (and enjoyable) – Why are these goals exciting to you and why will you enjoy working towards them?
Revisable – How will you revise and review the progress you are making?
Action planning is the process of operationalising every one of your goals. The action plan you produce for any of your goals must consist of the following:
Action step – What needs to be done?
Responsible person – Who should take action to complete this step?
Deadline – When should this step be completed?
Necessary resources – What do you need to complete this step?
Potential challenges – Are there any potential challenges that may impede completion? How will you overcome them?
The result – Was this step completed? Were any new steps identified in the process?
